What Disney never told us...

At a really young age, expectations are being drilled into little girls, telling them that there is one specific, perfect person out there who will come and steal their heart, and gallop into the sunset.... And then have that happy ever after thing. See, I have a particular problem with this whole perfect prince charming/happily ever after thing. Heres why...

Girls develop inrealistic expectations of men. They believe that one day, there will be a man who will worship the ground they walk on. I truly believe it is one of the major reasons as to why girls fall so hard the first time they fall "in love." (which isnt really love...) And when that "first love" doesn't seem to work out, they have their first, most heart-wrenching break-up ever. I can relate. Mine nearly ruined my entire world (and I'm not exaggerating.) Don't get me wrong. Outside of the will of God, we are all very innately selfish people. Its not a gender thing, its a human thing. Sooo many girls base their source of confidence and self-esteem on the amount of attention a guy feeds to her (hey, it can happen to guys too! I'm sure.. But I seem to noticed the trend in girls all around me...). Its so rediculous. And.. because we've all somehow been brainwashed with this "happily ever after" theory with prince charming... The girls who have never had a guy look at them in a flattering way feel as though there is something wrong with them; something not good enough. So many girls measure their worth on the amount of attention that is fed to them by seemingly "charming" people.

The truth is that there are charming people... but Prince charming never= happily ever after. Not if you forget the glue that will hold your relationship together.

The real question to ask yourself would be... What are you living for? Really?

Why do we measure our worth on how much we're appreciated or noticed? Don't we realize that we have been bought with a price? If you don't know what that means.. It means that a huge God actually thought it was necessary to die so that we didn't have to live the crappy "self-seeking", "self-improving," "Prince charming reassuring" life. Though I usually don't understand why, God thought we had enough worth to send His son to die for us. Why can't we measure our worth on the sacrifice Christ gave, instead of how "attractive" we look to other people?

What Disney never told us... Was that relationships only have the "happily ever after" if they are held together by the glue that is Christ. And even then, it takes seeing God daily to help you be an adequate mate for your spouse. (Notice I said spouse =) ) We don't seek God either, just to become that ideal, virtuous woman. If we'd just seek Christ with pure heart motives, everything else will follow. If we've been brainwashed to like every guy that adores us, how is that love? All that is is selfish pride, wanting to feel good about oneself instead of actually loving the other person genuinely. But how can we love if we don't know what love is?

Love is God. And looking at a world without God.. I've realized that they've redefined the whole meaning of love. No longer is love this selfless, unconditional, never-failing thing... Its now become this selfish self-esteem booster that only lasts until a couple gets bored with one-another. If you can't believe that, look at those stupid divorce rates. Isn't it even more sad that it seems you see more "Christians" with failed marriages than unbelievers theirselves. That means we must have got something really wrong.

The thing we got wrong was our hearts desire.

What a worldly view to have... Why do people find the need to feel good about theirself? The word says there is none who are good, not one! And also, God created you in HIS image... And beauty is fleeting. Beauty also has seemed to become a really relative term, because its honestly based on ones opinion (unless you're ruled by the media which is an entirely different topic.) Why do we need to find some sort of good in us to be happy? Can't we be happy in the goodness of Christ? And even then, theres a time of waiting... Until you can be mature in Christ to seek someone else/be sought by someone who is already satisfied by the goodness of Christ?

I guess it all really boils down to our heart motive.

If not an eye is looking at us, and somehow showing us that we're "worth" something.. will we be happy in Christ alone?


I do noticed that I'm kinda all over the place with this blog.. But just a bunch of random thoughts/ponderings that I decided to share.

Godbless all.